by Allan Green



There can be many reasons for memory loss - as simple as having an overloaded mind, to physical problems that affect the thought process.

As we get older we feel  we loose our memory.  It's quite frightening and frustrating at times. To me, in many ways it is a part of maturing, as an adult.

One of the goals in life is to be totally present in the moment, because as you have heard many times before, in the moment is the only time we can affect change.  Therefore, I invite you to think about a reality I have noticed within myself.

When we get old we do not necessarily loose our memory but actually become more and more in the present. When we go to speak we do remember the important things we need to say, but the small talk and filler we are used to expressing will not come. All those times that you spoke jibberish and social commentary, that was almost useless and created space, will not come.

In a way it is honouring with exactness the spoken word and valuing that what you say, as your truth, and deserves to be listened to. It is therefore speaking more from your heart than your mind.  It is not as quick and you feel you are slower, but in effect you are being more real. We are triggered into small talk because others do it. 

If you can manifest a rich and spiritually fulfilling life, it is extremely difficult to answer when someone asks, "So what's new in your life?" You don't know where to begin and your mind shuts down because your life has a sacred path that is private or often unexplainable.  At the same time you don't wish to do small talk. So you get stuck and find yourself listening more than speaking.  This is actually the wisest of the wise.  You already know about yourself, so a wise person asks questions to enhance their perception of another reality, which boosts their awareness.

If you don't start speaking your truth and listening to your heart you will get confused and speak what society wishes you to say or feel, and then, when you are really old you have nothing to speak about except the past or what you have been told. Most other people can respond, when confronted with the same question, "So what's new?" with the standard, "Oh, not much! The same O, same O."  Is this a cop out, or privacy?

Perhaps forgetting the small talk is remembering, feeling, and honouring who we really are, and what we want to put out there and say to the world. It is very important that we listen to what we say.  We should ask our minds to stop, if it is not exactly the truth or what we wish to express. To put it in more modern terms - in a way your computer mind has moved on to bigger and better things and has pressed the delete button on your behalf, so you can have more RAM for new and more important information that deals more relevantly with your current situation. So don't be depressed about loosing your memory, you're just growing older and wiser.