In 1994, I went with a beautiful brunette woman for a year. She did her best to devastate all aspects of my life. She had been sexually abused by her father since she was the age of eight, which caused our relationship to be like a roller coaster. I felt her pain and saw how her abuse had affected her life. I felt like writing him and telling him what he had done. So I did ! But never sent it.
The problem is, that many men don’t realize that a woman’s sexuality is her own. It’s when they try to take it for themselves, use it, exploit it, or abuse it that the trouble begins, for the individual and for humankind.
Letter to a Big Man
When I wrote this in 1994 I did not have the spiritual perspective I have now. The saying unforgiveness is like drinking poison, hoping the other person will die, seems real.
No one asks a person to forget, but if you don’t forgive, the person still owns you in some way or has some small power over you.
We do have contracts with people before we are born. How we react to events or lessons is what is important. Perhaps forgiving them as only being human can start the healing process.